tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601885929616016080.post5757431692294475093..comments2023-05-27T17:43:37.593-07:00Comments on Tree of Life: We're real people... who screw up sometimesKeredriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03207180365848283163noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601885929616016080.post-56410698703080598972011-09-06T03:54:53.794-07:002011-09-06T03:54:53.794-07:00You're just mad he didn't select your prof...You're just mad he didn't select your profile, Nik. Really, this petty jealous-posessive thing is getting out of hand.Nicolausenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601885929616016080.post-1830616799956240762011-09-04T07:31:11.232-07:002011-09-04T07:31:11.232-07:00Why is it, if everything is okay, that I see Jess ...Why is it, if everything is okay, that I see Jess trolling the Casual Encounters area of Craigslist?Nikolainoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601885929616016080.post-54181289505331928252011-08-30T07:44:09.208-07:002011-08-30T07:44:09.208-07:00I always seem to miss when Mommy and Daddy are fig...I always seem to miss when Mommy and Daddy are fighting (first time due to deployment, this time due to Irene). From what I hear, maybe I should count myself lucky.<br /><br />What's that, you say? "Hush up and go back to getting Bruenok geared!"? Yes ma'am. =)Nicolausenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601885929616016080.post-66047482766578191582011-08-30T05:54:11.088-07:002011-08-30T05:54:11.088-07:00@youyankit: Aw I'm sorry about that! But reall...@youyankit: Aw I'm sorry about that! But really if you've been apologizing continually apologizing for two weeks, it's way way way past due for them to accept your apology and drop it. <br /><br />@Rades: Great advice Rades! And yeah, I think the kids knew we weren't getting divorced for real. Especially since a number of them have seen how Jess and I interact IRL during Clawcons. <br /><br />Part of why Jess and I can get to arguing the way that we do is probably a reflection of how well we really know each other. It takes someone you know really well and feel comfortable with to be able to argue to that point and still know that your relationship will be intact. <br /><br />@Kayeri: Awww here's to hoping my new found luck with drops starts rubbing off on you!<br /><br />@Windsoar: Yeah... I don't think that Jess and I talked too much post Part One. Thus we had Part Two. I'm hoping now that we've explained to each other enough about what upset each of us, as well as what we may need in such situations to prevent a Part Three.<br /><br />But we did also talk about the fact that yes, even though we are human, our behavior affects the raid differently. As Jess said, leadership hard.<br /><br />@Syl: Great advice as well! And yeah, I do think others can overestimate the gravity of our arguments. Because Jess and I are pretty good about disagreeing about a lot of things. :p<br /><br />But you're totally right, unity is a crucial aspect. I know that Jess and I will not only disagree but fight again. But one thing I hope we've learned is to not bring it on vent.Keredriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03207180365848283163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601885929616016080.post-50893454707285370302011-08-30T00:47:28.322-07:002011-08-30T00:47:28.322-07:00"..Usually what happens is one (or both) just..."..Usually what happens is one (or both) just step back from a vocal role"<br /><br />very good advice, indeed. I've been 'guild mom' in my own guild for a few years and while 'guild dad' is a good friend of mine IRL too, we would sometime disagree of course - but then, we were rather absolute in never letting the raiders see. there's officer chat and there's such a thing as discussing things after the raid (we had our heated discussions there). it's good to always remember that nothing is ever important enough to start an argument in the middle of the raid, really nothing. :) even if quite often, this is much easier to see in retrospective. <br />so, if you need to, just go quiet and "delegate the night" to the other person. unity is such a crucial aspect of a leading team - and most of the time your guildies will misunderstand and possibly over-estimate the gravity of your argument.<br /><br />Yet, I second Windsoar here as well; if you perceive your issues and work on them, that's what really counts. we are all human and we have our moments!Sylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04473554645340972749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601885929616016080.post-60213718533318878342011-08-29T20:37:33.954-07:002011-08-29T20:37:33.954-07:00I think the fact that you recognize that such flar...I think the fact that you recognize that such flare-ups are potentially "bad times" for the rest of your raid team speaks volumes about you and Jess handle yourselves. Bad nights and even snarky moments happen, sometimes in the worst of situations, but taking action and communicating about the flare-ups is a great thing! <3Windsoarhttp://jadedalt.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601885929616016080.post-90335637546248168342011-08-29T16:45:24.655-07:002011-08-29T16:45:24.655-07:00Yes,everyone can stress and clash at times... what...Yes,everyone can stress and clash at times... what matters is that we are all grown-ups and when it's said and done... it IS done. :)<br /><br />and you are still doing better than me on Kay... STILL no drops! I have been reduced to mentioning to friends in other guilds that if they happen to get one of these BoE drops, I'm in the market... ::sigh::Kayerinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601885929616016080.post-18479369042892338862011-08-29T15:11:39.873-07:002011-08-29T15:11:39.873-07:00It's always tough - and tense/awkward - when o...It's always tough - and tense/awkward - when officers or leaders clash, especially the "guild mom and dad" such as in your case. But I think the fact that this wasn't an issue that stewed unresolved, but rather one that you and Jess quickly worked, speaks leagues about the healthy relationship your guild has with its members and leaders. And no one expects the leaders to be perfect. We're all human, we get frustrated, have bad nights, and all that.<br /><br />I know in my guild, two of our leaders are best friends IRL and sometimes they clash or just aren't cooperating very well on some nights. Usually what happens is one (or both) just step back from a vocal role, and let one of the other leaders step in and keep things going. This way they can take a breath and relax, and not get worked up to the point of genuine anger. This way, by the time raid ends everyone is usually fine and tempers have settled, or if there is anything that needs to be resolved everyone has had a bit of time to calm down.<br /><br />It sounds like you did a great job of assuring the kids that everything is fine ;) and I am sure they realized it was just a spat and not a legitimate serious fight. :DRadeshttp://orcisharmyknife.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601885929616016080.post-54132031476452302632011-08-29T14:52:58.579-07:002011-08-29T14:52:58.579-07:00This is one of the things I found so horribly frus...This is one of the things I found so horribly frustrating as a guild and raid leader. We are just as human as everyone else - to our detriment at times. We make bad calls, have off nights, get frustrated on occasion and snap, etc and so forth.<br /><br />Having to hear about a moment of "being human" for two weeks plus after apologizing for it is... well, frustrating doesn't quite cover it but we'll use that. To add even more, we were expected to overlook anyone else's mistakes/off nights.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com